Written By: Basheer Al-Selwi
Article Date: Aug 11, 2009
Hoda al-Robee, 22 years old, from the Sharab district resolved to terminate her life after finding herself married to an unbearable husband that beat her everyday. According to Ali al-Mekhlaphe, one of al-Robee’s neighbors, when al-Robee made the decision to leave her husband, her relatives rejected her completely and shut their doors in her face.
The neglect of her relatives and the daily beatings from her husband compelled al-Robee to kill herself. She covered herself with gasoline and burned to death in order to put an end to her pain and agony.
Al-Robee is only one among many young Yemenis who are prone to commit suicide.
Yemeni doctors have verified the increased number of suicides among Yemeni youth, calling for rapid and swift solutions, saying that suicides among youth—both male and female—have become a serious and widespread problem in Yemen due to the
country’s economic, religious, and social situations. They also confirm that suicides are increasing drastically among people, specifically those between 18 and 30 years of age.
Suicide is a widespread phenomenon which affects people of various ages regardless of gender. The motivations that may force a person to commit suicide vary from one person to another, based on their psychological, economic, and religious situations or their social environment. The reason behind a suicide could be a psychological disorder or a lack of religious discipline, which may go unnoticed by the people living with the person who commits suicide, stated Mohammed al-Karshee, a student preparing for a Master’s Degree in Psychological Treatment at Sana’a University.
Economic causes:
Economic studies indicate that the number of suicides committed among youth is increasing each year, a fact which experts believe is a result of the deteriorating economic situation and growing unemployment among youth. They also consider the tough economic situation of the country as a whole one of the main reasons youth are so frustrated and unable to achieve their aims and goals in life.
While government sources believe that suicides among youth are a result of domestic problems, economic researchers and psychological experts strongly believe that poverty, economic deterioration, and the decline of living conditions at every level of society are the leading causes of youth terminating their own lives.
These sources confirm that Sana’a ranks highest over Aden and al-Hodeidah in the number of youth suicides in comparison with the other governorates.
According to these government sources, most youth who commit suicide are between 18 and 30 years old. The most common means by which youth take their lives include: shooting, poisoning, burning, or hanging themselves, or by blowing themselves up.
Economic researchers and psychological experts affirm that poor people are subject to daily oppression. Furthermore, such feelings generate a strong desire for revenge on society. So, when a person finds themselves paralyzed and unable to support themselves, he or she immediately terminates his or her own life.
The experts also attach special importance or significance to religion by saying that religion plays a very significant role in keeping youth from killing themselves. They state that religious discipline enables any person to be satisfied about their life and not have inner conflict or disorder.
Social misery
Psychologists emphasize that suicide rates are increasing dramatically among women in recent years. The number of suicidal deaths among females has approached unprecedented numbers, and as a result of this phenomenon, the number of orphans in Yemeni society has increased correspondingly, especially if the women were married and had children.
“When any youth commits suicide in order to end his or her pain and agony in this life, he or she leaves a lot of pain for his or her family. Committing suicide shocks and devastates families and strongly affects relationships. Moreover, it paralyzes the family completely and spreads sadness among all family members,” explains Doctor Khaled al-Shameree, the head of the psychological unit in the al-Amel Hospital.
“My youngest daughter, Latifa Ahmed, decided to end her life by burning herself with gasoline. Her grandfather did not love her. Furthermore, he was always upset with her for trivial things. One day she quarreled with her brother. When her brother returned home and complained to their grandfather that she had insulted and quarreled with him, her grandfather immediately took his hand and slapped her across the face,” says Latifa’s mother.
Her mother went on to say, “yes, she told me, ‘mom I am going to burn myself,’ to which I replied innocently, you’ll go to hell...’ after a while she came out of the kitchen with huge flames around her body. We could not catch her to extinguish the fire because she was running and spinning around saying, ‘help me, help me,’ but it was too late for help, she was about to die.”
“No one can imagine how much pain I am in right now. I know that she terminated her life in her own way, for the obvious reasons that we did not offer her adequate love and sympathy. But she leaves me, her father, brothers, and sisters and her whole family in shock. Everyone in the family is suffering from her death,” her mother commented.
She concluded, “Why didn’t she express her distress and pain to me? Maybe I would have been able to help her. It seems that she decided to leave me in pain forever. We are all overwhelmed by her death, our financial situation has gone from bad to worse due to her father’s constant refusal to work after her death.”
According to some studies about youth suicides in Yemen the number of these instances among young Yemenis is increasing sharply, particularly in recent years. This phenomenon is illustrated by the high number of suicides among Yemeni youth, a statistic which has increased by 52% annually due to unemployment, increasing domestic problems, poverty, and deteriorating social situations.
Suicidal symptoms:
“The person who is likely to kill themselves always sees life as being dark, nothing is beautiful for them and nothing is worth living for. They are always thinking about death, farewells, their friends crying, writing wills, and committing suicide,” explains Dr. Fikri al-Naib, a consulting psychiatrist and medical director at the al-Amal Psychiatric Hospital.
Causes and solutions.
Fellow al-Amal Hospital pyschologist, Khaled al-Shameree says, “Suicide is the act of purposefully ending one’s own life, particularly when one finds there is no hope in life compelling oneself to keep on living. Most of the youth who commit suicide are between the ages of 18 to 29, a fact that is confirmed by most studies around the world. Furthermore, young people in this stage of life are exposed to different psychological diseases such as personality disorder, depression, and fatigue.”
Depression is one of the main causes which leads youth to commit suicide. Depression makes anyone in general, and youth in particular, feel as if life is dark and there is no hope to keep on living.
According to Dr. al-Shameree, youth are killing themselves in response to extreme emotional pain and suicidal thoughts and feelings caused by various brain chemistry deficiencies and/or disorders. Prolonged circumstances of extreme stress, emotional instability, abuse, poverty, terrible living conditions, neglect, poor health, injuries, or disabilities—especially when there is no apparent hope of change or improvement—can and do precipitate depression and suicidal thoughts for some.
He explains that lack of social support from the family and society, such as love, encouragement, and financial support, can lead to more suicidal cases among youth. Moreover, single youth are more likely to commit suicide due to the fact that they feel lonely and no one supports or helps them.
“Suicide occurs with people of all ages and backgrounds, but certain groups of people are at an increased risk for suicide attempts. These include people with a psychiatric illness and a past history of suicide attempts. Males are more likely than females to commit suicide, although suicide attempts are more common among females.” Al-Shameree added, “a family history of, or exposure to, suicide, altered levels of neurotransmitters in the brain, and impulsiveness are other factors that may increase an individual’s risk of suicide.”
Most borderline personalities kill themselves on account of the loss of friends or other disappointments in life. These individuals suffer from gloomy thoughts, anxiety and sadness because they feel as if they are completely alone on this planet. So when their feelings of loneliness get worse and worse, they start cutting their bodies with sharp materials. They don’t realize what they are doing while they are cutting themselves, and most of the time they die if there is no one to prevent them from hurting themselves,” Dr. al-Shameree said.
He explains that unemployment causes them to become depressed, and then depression takes over their minds and everything becomes dark in their eyes, after they arrive at this stage, they are prepared to commit suicide.
Yemeni psychologists confirm that committing suicide can influence others, especially family members and neighbors. For instance, if someone kills himself and there is someone in the same family or neighborhood thinking about death, maybe that person will imitate him and kill themselves as well.
“While there are no definitive answers for why youth attempt and complete suicide, there is a general agreement that youth who take their own lives feel hopeless about their situation and believe it will never change,” says psychiatrist, Dr. Fikri al-Naib, adding, “suicide seems to be a response to seemingly intolerable pain. It appears due to a complex set of factors that interact with the youth’s biological, emotional, intellectual and social stages of development.”
According to al-Naib, some of the factors which contribute to suicide are biological, such as depression due to chemical imbalance, physical illness, physical or learning disabilities, chemical changes during puberty, or physical dependency on drugs or alcohol. Emotional factors include sadness, stress, impulsive behavior, a sense of powerlessness, loss, grief, loneliness, low self-esteem, anger or rage, guilt, hopelessness, a sense of being overwhelmed, anxiety, confusion about sexual identity/orientation, or emotional dependency on chemical substances. There are intellectual factors as well, such as an inability to communicate feelings, perfectionism, pressure to achieve or perform, self-criticism, unrealistic views of death, revenge, and exaggeration of faults. Finally, there are social factors such as isolation, withdrawal, friendlessness, lack of social skills, unpopularity, feelings of not belonging, embarrassment before peers, or being labeled as crazy, stupid, or different. Social factors can also include being in trouble at home, at school or with the law, or being a runaway.
“Exposure to rape is considered one of the main reasons for young girls to commit suicide, especially if they can’t adjust to circumstances after they’ve been raped. Sometimes when the young girls are subjected to rape, they kill themselves in order to avoid the disgrace which can follow them later on,” said al-Naib.
He concluded, “the solution to this problem rests on the shoulders of the media. They need to educate people on how they should deal with depression which may lead to suicide, and on how others should deal with a person who is threatening to commit suicide.”
